Parenting is difficult, and even worse when one has no tools especially for consequence management.
Often our children behave in ways that trigger us and even embarrass us. But shaming our children on the internet is not the best way to deal with their mistakes.
What you are doing is;
-You are breaking their trust -Destroying their self-esteem -Opening them up to bullying and shaming from their peers - You’re teaching them that they are bad people which has a far reaching impact on their self-worth. - You’re not dealing with the behaviour you are making it worse and adding more problems. - You are invading their privacy and letting gazillions of strangers consume and share that in their own context. - Shaming has never corrected behaviour or dealt with difficult child-parent situations. - You yourself cannot control where that recording goes once it’s online, it’s out of your hands.
You don’t have to do parenting alone, if it gets too much ask for help. But please protect your kids especially in their most vulnerable moments, the internet can be incredibly awful place and it doesn’t forget.